
My grandma Vera, my hero back in action at 98!
Several weeks ago I jumped on a plane to Minneapolis after a phone call that my grandma was in the hospital. She had just had a stroke … lost movement in her left side, as well as her speech. If you knew my grandma, you’d love her. She’s 98 and has spent her life taking care of others. She’s direct, down-to-earth, and speaks her truth. She’s sweet, strong-willed, and doesn’t beat around the bush. Even with compromised movement and speech, her qualities shine through. I spent one week with her in the hospital, and another week with her at home. Here’s what I learned:
Hospitals
Hospitals are generally not places to get well; sometimes you have to argue with the “powers-that-be” to make what seem like smarter choices to you. Some choices that doctors/nurses want to make have extremely harmful consequences, and you must believe in your intuition to fight them on certain issues.
Trust yourself and do what you feel is right. (Like going against orders: letting grandma suck down that sweet herbal root beer, eat real food, get less IV fluid, ride around in a chair to see a different scene than the room, and ultimately go home!)
You must be aware at all times and stick around; things can change in an instant. Anyone in the hospital needs a constant advocate and protector. It’s worth your time.
There are nurses that have incredible compassion and care for others.
It’s very difficult to get good sleep in a hospital and impossible to get fresh air … after about 4 days you’re capable of going totally batty (even if you’re the “healthy” one).
Nice soap and lotion make a huge difference … if you ever visit someone in the hospital, bring aromatherapeutic body care and essential oils! It brightens moods and cleans the air—even the nurses love it.
Home
The best place to get well is home.
You have to flip someone with limited movement every 2 hours so they don’t get sores from lying in one spot for too long, and there’s a great method for changing the sheets while they’re in the bed.
Caring for another human being is the ultimate service, the ultimate kindness, and the ultimate joy … a true path to happiness. What else is more important than caring for another? Sacrificing your own needs for someone else who really needs you is incredibly rewarding and motivating.
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